Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Whoring Wives

Some Malaysian Muslim women wanting to promote harmonious marriage and counter social ills have banded together to form the Obedient Wives Club (OWC) and provide sex lessons to help wives “serve their husbands better than a first-class prostitute” (Sunday Star, June 05, 2011, p 3). Club vice-president Dr Rohaya Mohamad (left) – a third wife herself with a brood of eight children – said it was time sexual prowess took a front seat in marriage, beyond that of the traditional “good mother or good cook” roles. This belief that domestic violence, infidelity and prostitution stemmed from a lack of belief in God and more importantly, a failure of women to appease their husbands has just transported womenfolk back to the medieval ages. This philosophy is typecasting a good wife as someone who is a good sex worker to her husband who only wants to satisfy his lust. It reduces women to being mere sex objects and men as sex predators. It's the bitch's fault if she gets punched, mentally abused or raped by her husband! It means that the wife exists only for the husband to do as he pleases. It calls for the wife to give up equality for hoped-for “marital bliss”. In simple words, it is primal sex that is being promoted here.

The way I see it – Rohaya and her group want nothing more than for women to obey, serve and entertain their husbands. What they are asking is to be treated like whores in bed. Forget about love and romance. All you need is to prostitute yourself to your husband and all is well!

Rights groups say this portrayal of women is demeaning. "Abusive men often use women's behavior as a sick justification, but in the end, their actions are their responsibility," said Ratna Osman, of Sisters-in-Islam. That may be so but some women are now saying they very much prefer to part their legs rather than cook chicken rendang.

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