Tuesday, July 19, 2016

Another Suicide at Monash University Malaysia

University Malaya Medical Centre’s Dr Muhamad Muhsin said statistics by the National Health and Morbidity Survey showed that 12 percent of Malaysians, aged between 18 and 60, suffered mental health problems (The Rakyat Post, October 11, 2015).
 
The consultant psychiatrist went on to explain that suicidal tendencies among youths, aged between 12 and 20, usually stemmed from academic problems, including being pressured to do well.
 
To combat suicide, he said close family members and friends could help because one does not commit suicide abruptly.
 
But is anybody really listening? Or is the advice falling on deaf ears?
 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
  
Well, there was another suicide in Bandar Sunway on late Friday night. I was first alerted to this incident at 01:58 AM Saturday and today, the news was corroborated by a Monash person. 


 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

 
All I know is that the victim was a female and that she was an international student of Monash University Malaysia. It is claimed she jumped from either the eighteenth or twentieth floor of the Sunway Monash Residence.
 
I don’t believe we can truly understand suicide – until we think about it. And we tried it.
 
But the following ‘sharing’ does describe suicide as I see it! 
 
Susanna Kaysen (“Girl, Interrupted”) says “Suicide is a form of murder – premeditated murder. It isn't something you do the first time you think of doing it. It takes getting used to. And you need the means, the opportunity, the motive. A successful suicide demands good organization and a cool head, both of which are usually incompatible with the suicidal state of mind”.
 
David Foster Wallace explains: “The so-called ‘psychotically depressed’ person who tries to kill herself doesn’t do so out of quote ‘hopelessness’ or any abstract conviction that life’s assets and debits do not square. And surely not because death seems suddenly appealing. The person in whom Its invisible agony reaches a certain unendurable level will kill herself the same way a trapped person will eventually jump from the window of a burning high-rise. Make no mistake about people who leap from burning windows. Their terror of falling from a great height is still just as great as it would be for you or me standing speculatively at the same window just checking out the view; i.e. the fear of falling remains a constant. The variable here is the other terror, the fire’s flames: when the flames get close enough, falling to death becomes the slightly less terrible of two terrors. It’s not desiring the fall; it’s terror of the flames. And yet nobody down on the sidewalk, looking up and yelling ‘Don’t!’ and ‘Hang on!’, can understand the jump. Not really. You’d have to have personally been trapped and felt flames to really understand a terror way beyond falling”.
 
Sally Brampton (“Shoot the Damn Dog: A Memoir of Depression) has another take on suicide: “Killing oneself is, anyway, a misnomer. We don't kill ourselves. We are simply defeated by the long, hard struggle to stay alive. When somebody dies after a long illness, people are apt to say, with a note of approval, "He fought so hard." And they are inclined to think, about a suicide, that no fight was involved, that somebody simply gave up. This is quite wrong”.
 
Brampton adds “Wanting to die (or 'suicidal ideation' as the experts would have it) goes hand in hand with the illness. It is a symptom of severe depression, not a character failing or moral flaw. Nor is it, truly, a desire to die so much as a fervent wish not to go on living. All depressives understand that distinction”.
 
My advice:
 
 

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